*Tapping fingers impatiently* Hell, I did that for about 11 months, actually; I waited for something that just wasnt fated, as Lauryn Hill said in her duet with Mary J. Blige in "I Used to Love Him" off her freshman album, The Miseducation of Lauryn Hill. What w as it I waited for? I waited for someone to love me inworld when it was never going to happen beyond the love of friendship! And I am not the only one that has done this. As a matter of fact I know someone currently doing this. But you can tell someone your story, they could have been right there when you were going through your pain and it would not matter. People typically learn the HARD way!
Now I won't just make this post about the inidivdual's that hold onto something that is nothing because that wouldn't exactly be fair. I am going to speak on both parties. While we have to be responsible for being wise enough to see the light well in advance, the parties allowing us to feel this way, a lot of times without honesty and for their own selfish reasons, have to own up to their part in this as well! It may be one sided in emotions but it sure as hell isn't one sided in actions!
I notice that a lot of behaviors we exhibit in Second Life as far as relationships is something we wouldn't take in our real lives. I don't see why we don't pattern SOME behaviors after real life and carry them over to Second Life to be happy there. I admit it; I am guilty of holding onto someone, hoping for that commitment to roll around and end up being the best friend. But I can guarantee you it won't happen a third time in real life or Second Life and you can mark my words on that!
But I digress...It seems its a lot of women waiting around in Second Life for one particular person. We are at his beck and call while he does what he wants when he pleases. We can't rely on him to escort us to events like weddings, formal parties, or couples' parties, because, hey, guess what? YOU AREN'T A COUPLE! (now the guy I dealt with actually DID take me to all these places, hence my confusion!) Why would he have himself look like he is off the market by going to an event with you and have people talk? But he WILL take you to a club, jump on the grind her poseball, and then take you home to have ACT like he is your man in his TNT sex bed! And we see nothing wrong with that because eventually he will come around right? WRONG! So very WRONG!
While he is getting his rocks off and you are falling deeper into love, he is IMing the next chick he hit up while you were in that same club and convincing her you aren't a couple. And you are none the wiser. None the wiser, but you HAVE to be wiser. I am not saying be suspicious of EVERY man you come across, but be suspicious of THIS one you are dealing with. You have to look closely at this individual's pattern of behavior.
- Does he hint he needs something to better himself or to keep himself together knowing you will help him out but when you have a basic need to be met such as your tier being paid, he doesn't have it? A little convenient wouldn't you say?
- When you want to do something, does he not answer your IMs, or he says he is busy with mo explanation where he usually has one? He is with someone else at the time! And when he gets ready, he will answer you or come to see you and you will put up with it once again.
- Does he telelport outof your "quality time" together stating he has "something to do" or he will "be right back" and then you don't hear from him again? Wonder what that could mean? Hmmm...perhaps THE NEXT CHICK?
- Does he have a "key" to you house (that oh so sacred landmark we don't allow people to make at our house but give to select people..its a key because no one else can get in), or does he not have a place at all but rezzes at yours, does he have mapping rights to you but you have NONE to him? Yeah, pretty much, it's all you and NONE of him!
- Ever been around him and other females and they give you the side eye or snub you all together? That's because he is feeding them the same bullshit he is feeding YOU!
Now Fellas, you aren't getting off quite so easy because you have been easily getting off...pun intended! You should do better! Its a shortage of good men on the world as it is, and you want to come into Second Life and do the SAME THING you do in real life? Wow! That's low! Let us have SOMETHING! Yes, I am aware its a make believe world. But who has lies, deceptions, untruths, fallacies, falsehoods (yes, I am using just about every adjective I can for the dishonesty (there goes another one)) and all the other unnecessary drama in their fantasy? Who in their right mind would wish for THAT? Apparently, you don't know women as well as you portray because if you did you would know women are mental creatures..no, strike that, MENTAL AND EMOTIONAL creatures! Your lack of understanding of women in real life shows greatly by your actions in Second Life. You are doing things you would not DARE in real life! You either know better, which is likely the case or your real life is the EXACT opposite of your Second Life. Okay, in all fairness, your Second Life should be a life lived better than your real life but BETTER is the operative word here.
You use women for sex and money. What part of the game is THAT? No, really, what part of the game is that supposed to fit into? You have to tell lie upon lie to keep up with the initial lie. And that's how you want to live in Second Life? You want to hurt people, be on edge, and never have that mental relaxation? Sucks for you and everyone you encounter, doesn't it? This does not a man make. By no means! And you need to take an evaluation of yourself and your ways before you come and infect others with your poison!
Be wiser, about who you allow into your Second Life, be stronger when it comes to saying , "NO!", putting your foot down, and cutting the bad people out of your Second Life and your real lives, and most of all be HONEST with yourself and especially others.
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